As I drove home from singing group, I turned on the radio to Richard Mercer’s Love Song Dedications.
I can find the show funny, sweet or sad (both types) but always incredibly interesting. The callers always miss their significant other so much or have had a fight and want to make it up to them or get them to come back. Or yes, they just want the other to know that they are loved very, very much.
Someone requested a popular song *cough* Shania Twain *cough* which I knew very well and started singing along. And then I noticed the lyrics and couldn’t sing those words.
Because he’s not my reason for living. Or breathing. Or my only source of happiness. No, I won’t give everything for him and you know what? I may not even love him romantically forever.
The whole song perpetuates the myth of the other half/two halves making a whole. Our society loves this. I wonder how many other love songs actually make us feel worse about ourselves.
Each person is whole. As we are. On our own.
The way I see it, a partner may be a companion, a complement, someone to love, challenge, enjoy and share with. I’ve been a fan of Kahlil Gibran for many years and resonate with his thoughts on marriage.
Since I happen to be in a four-month old relationship and still in the ‘enjoying, loving, appreciating and somewhat gooey’ stage, my philosophy leads to comments like:
Me: I love what I know of you
Mr Connection: I’d like to be in a relationship with you for a long time
No, they’re not declarations of eternal love. Yes, they are delivered with much awkwardness. But we both get it and are enjoying our shared and separate journeys.
What are your thoughts on romantic love?